So this may be a controversial viewpoint, but I think that the people that you meet at the wrong time are actually just the wrong people, because the right people are timeless.
The right people make you want to throw away the plans you originally had and follow them into the hazy unknown future without a glance backwards.
When Davide and I happened, both of us could’ve said it was bad timing, because it honestly was. At the time, I was adamantly against getting into a relationship… I had big plans for my single self and also there was the small factor of us living across the world from each other. At the end of the day… it was that there was something really special about each other and the intensity of our relationship that caused us both to rethink our former plans and all our the obstacles in the way.
Ultimately, I think you just know who you want to be with. You just know that any adventure you had originally planned out for the future isn’t going to be half as incredible as the adventures you’d have by their side. That no matter what you wanted before, this is better.
What “the timing isn’t right” really means to me
I’ve been there, I’ve been at the end of a relationship or fling that wanted to be a relationship and blamed the ending of things on timing. What I realized later is that what I was really saying is that I decided it wasn’t worth spending my time on that situation or person. Which honestly is okay to say, time is the most limited and precious resource that we have. We have to protect it. At the same time, it’s not fair to act like it could’ve worked out in a difference circumstance/timing.
Maybe that’s a harsh viewpoint, but it’s proven true in my life. If they’re the right person for you, you make the timing work. You bend over backwards. I mean… you’re willing to smash all the clocks in the city if it meant that you could cast the whole “timing” thing aside and give in. The right timeless person will cause you to feel that way. Cause you to make the impossible… somehow within reach.
Yes, it would be marvelous to have all our dates aligned and to see the timing play out flawlessly. Yes, it would’ve been infinitely easier to meet Nate years earlier…. before both of us were engaged to other people.
But here is the thing… I’d rather count my blessings, because I think it’s an absolutely miracle that out of the billions of years that earth has existed, you and I ended up alive at the exact same time.
I wasn’t born on your 90th birthday. You didn’t die an untimely death at the age of 3. Our of all of the century, eras, time periods we could’ve ended up in, we somehow both ended up here. Then on top of that… we somehow found each other in the most unlikely of circumstances.
Then… to top it all off… out of all the possible worlds that we could have gotten stuck in, we found ourselves living in a time where it’s possible to wake up to a good morning text every day from someone who is across the world.
When you look at it that way, it doesn’t seem so bad. When you look at it from the angle of the bleak improbability that two people like you and I would ever co-exist…. the timing doesn’t seem so wrong at all.
The truth about timing being wrong is that it’s nothing more than the worlds finest reason not to try. Saying the timing is wrong is basically saying “You aren’t worth the inconvenience” because the right people are timeless and worth every inconvenience.